I’ll be honest: I’m in my late twenties and I’ve been single for a good long while. When you’re twenty-one, it’s not such a shocker, but at twenty-seven, I’ve become accustomed to the love advice relayed with big, pitiful eyes. Additional comments are: “But you’re so pretty!” or “You just need to wear more makeup” or, my favorite: “They’re just scared of you” (mkay, thanks for that). But honestly, I feel lucky that I’ve never had to experience a break-up or witness the deterioration of a relationship with someone I really care about. Sure, I miss the good parts about a romantic relationship and I can see that being in love is a beautiful thing, but I just can’t muster up the desire–and maybe courage?–to commit to a relationship just yet.
I have wondered if something was wrong with me because dating and romance is just not at the forefront of my life. And there is a small part of me that wonders if I’m the problem because I don’t date casually or open up my heart to just anyone. Having unrequited crushes, being too slow to reciprocate feelings, pushing the line of friendship–I’ve been there, and it can suck feeling like nothing ever works out. Continue reading “Singleness (And Being OK With It)”